Marriage Counseling Before Tying The Knot?

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When you get married to the love of your life, the pastor will often say, “The 2 will become one flesh.” Now that is true in the spiritual sense, but I think we all know that there are still 2 brains involved. 2 hearts. 2 separate people.

Not to mention the fact that one is a man and one is a woman! The fact of the matter is, the two of you WILL clash from time to time. And it’s imperative that you arm yourself with the knowledge and wisdom you need to handle these situations when they inevitably come up.

Love and marriage is not easy. It takes work. And you need to be ready and know how to handle problems when they arise.

Marriage Counseling Is A Must

Most good, Biblically based Christian churches will actually require couples to take marriage counseling before they can get married in the church. The reason for this is because the churches understand that couples will fight and disagree on things.

And if those couples don’t know how to deal with these matters in a healthy way, it will often end in a miserable marriage. Worst case scenario, it can even end in divorce or unfaithfulness.

Learn To Communicate

The reality is that when a man and woman commit to spend their lives together, they don’t typically understand fully what that entails. They are often blinded by their love and infatuation with each other.

But the 2 individuals have completely different backgrounds. They were likely raised in very different environments. This means that their belief systems may not line up.

It’s important to be prepared for this so that when disagreements come up, they can communicate in a healthy way and start working their way towards getting on the same page.

Get On The Same Page

Getting on the same page will not happen with simply going through marriage counseling. But it will serve to prepare you for when disagreements occur.

It’s a progressive process. As you spend time together as a married couple and do life together, your beliefs will slowly start to mesh… IF and only if you are communicating in a healthy way.

Getting on the same page and working towards aligning your own personal beliefs is necessary for raising children, growing your relationships with other couples, and handling money.

Number 1 Cause Of Divorce

Money is the number one cause of divorce and money fights in America. It’s sad, but the reality is that our lives literally revolve around making money.

Even if we work at not making money our idle… you can’t deny that without money, we can’t live. Not in today’s economy.

So as a married couple, you have to get on the same page when it comes to your finances. Don’t try to have a marriage with 2 separate checking accounts. You got married! So be willing to share this area of your life with your spouse.

Not only that, but you should REALLY work on eliminating debt. I know that’s easier said than done but there are many resources out there that can help you accomplish this as a married couple.

You wouldn’t believe the sense of peace and freedom you will have when you officially have NO PAYMENTS!

I recommend watching the video below where Dave Ramsey is going to explain some powerful money principles. And if you and your spouse can grasp these principles together, you will completely avoid the most common fights that married couples face on a daily basis in our nation.

Did you get benefit from the video? Did you watch it with your spouse?

I’d love to hear your personal experience when it comes to marriage counseling and handling finances with your spouse… feel free to leave some comments down below. I know this can be a bit personal so feel free to comment anonymously.


  1. Julie Kilmer

    Marriage counselling is not always necessary. Not if you love each other and are committed 🙂

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      Elwin Leos

      I think it’s always wise to go through marriage counseling before getting hitched. Things seem so perfect now but wait till you’ve been together for 10+ years. You’ll face trials and it will be beneficial to you both if you can KNOW what’s coming 🙂

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